Ask Amanda

Dear Amanda,

OK, I know you're a CA - but imagine for a moment you aren't. I'm one of those girls in the middle - I have friends that drink and party and friends that don't. I've been to a few parties and had a good time - actually I didn't see anything wrong with it. But I know a girl who has a real drinking problem, though she'd never admit it. I know the CLC says I'm not allowed to drink, which maybe is why I don't hear anyone talking about the fact that there ARE people who drink a lot. I wish there was a way to be more open about where I'm at without being lumped into the party crowd. And any advice about how to talk with my friend who drinks too much?

Sincerely,
Wishy Washy

Dear Wishy Washy,

The stigma that comes with drinking alcohol on this campus is disgusting, as is the stigma that comes with choosing not to. I am sick and tired (magnified by the fact that I am currently, physically sick and tired) of the division on this campus over the alcohol issue. Mostly, I am concerned about the hypocrisy and silence surrounding EMU's policies.

When students in genuine trouble cannot openly discuss their struggles due to the fear of stigmatization or disciplinary action, they are in danger of resorting to their familiar habits as comfort or distraction. EMU's social environment does not actively encourage responsible drinking. Instead, it draws a bold stroke and demands that we choose a side. We must learn to value each other for more than the Friday-night-drunk factor.

It's lovely to hear that you have friends on both sides of the alcohol line. I would encourage your friend to talk to Pam Comer with EMU's counseling services. And talk to your friends about your moderate opinions. You might be surprised that many people on campus hold similar opinions. They just hold them quietly.

As far as EMU is concerned, something must be done about the all-or-nothing complex. Students must be educated that there are safe and responsible drinking options preferable to late night porcelain bowl regrets. In order to demonstrate responsible drinking, I recommend that EMU hold a Passover feast and serve wine with that bread. After all, what would Jesus drink?

-Amanda

amanda.gross@emu.edu