He's just not that into you

So, why isn't that guy asking you out?
a. He's intimidated by you.
b. He's shy.
c. It's EMU's fault.
d. He doesn't want to ruin our friendship.

From the choices above now choose which ones are applicable to your situation.

Picked one yet? Well, you're wrong. The truth is, HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU!

Written by a writer and consultant of Sex and the City and inspired by a writing session, the book He's Just Not That Into You is offering women an answer to their questions about men. The overwhelming response to this bestseller would suggest that this book is empowering women across the nation…or at least making them rethink the crap they put up with.

Crap, as defined by the authors, is behavior that keeps women in uncertainty, waiting for the guy to make a decision or an excuse for not pursuing a real relationship. Some persons argue that the book oversimplifies the complexity of relationships, especially those here at EMU. While this argument may be correct, it is also possible that these people are trying to justify typical male behavior.

Let's do a little case study using the book's advice:
Jane (an extremely average EMU student) bumps into Mark while checking her mail in the Campus Center. Mutual attraction is sensed through casual flirtation and conversation. Over the next few weeks the two have brief interactions, discover similar interests, and make vague plans to spend more time together. At this point, Jane is interested but Mark seems to make no attempts to further their relationship. What should Jane do?
a. Take the initiative and give him a call.
b. Assume he doesn't have her phone number.
c. Keep longing and obsess from afar.
d. Blame EMU and those shy Mennonite boys. OR...
e. Accept the fact that if Mark were into her, he would ask her out.

Mark is not a dumb boy; he has access to the EMU directory, he can get over his shyness, and besides, if he isn't into her enough to make a move, why does she want to be with him? The authors of this book feel Jane deserves better, and really, Jane does. While Jane may wish to believe that Mark is an exception to the rule, he is not.

This concept may appear strange, negative, and sorta harsh, but it is a liberating idea that frees women from over-analyzing men's behavior. To quote the authors, "We [women] have been conditioned to expect too little, told not to be demanding, not to seem needy. But what would happen if all the women in the world … started insisting that men keep true to their word, treat us with respect, shower us with the appropriate amount of love and affection?" The world would be a better place.

We may not totally agree with this book or the advice in it, but we know some females need a reminder that sometimes guys just aren't that into them. And that's OK. Move on, you deserve better.